My life and relationships used to be mostly based on some imaginary expectations and assumptions that were the result of mimicking my parents and other people I knew, who had done the same growing up. I would go as far as calling that period “my dark ages”, but after I went through life coaching, things became a lot clearer.
Today, I want to give you an example of how a simple exercise changed my view of my marriage with Ronit for the better and, in fact, improved the way I interact with everybody in my life.
This was before Ronit and I discovered communication styles and love languages and I had a strong feeling I was going out of my way to make Ronit happy, but she was doing very little to do the same for me. I thought this was unfair and I was frustrated.
Fortunately, I had a session with my life coach, Sheryl, that week.
I started pouring my frustration as soon as I sat down. If you have ever been to life coaching, you know you can only do this for a very short time.
“Gal, I get that you are upset and that from your point of view, things aren’t equal in your relationship”, Sheryl said.
“They sure are”, I said.
“But by now, you already know that what matters most is your perception of the world, not how the world is. So let’s look at your choices and your focus, OK?”
I nodded in apprehension, because I knew what was coming.
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